The Meaning of Respect

The Meaning of Respect - Art of Living Retreat Center

Respect is a beautiful word, and it’s one of the most important symbols that we can understand. Imagine that you never heard the word before, and let’s make it up and agree on the meaning, because just like any other symbol, we need to agree with the symbol or it will not work for us. Respect, like many of the symbols, begins with ourselves, then it goes to everyone and everything around us. If we don’t respect ourselves, how can we respect anyone or anything else?

The importance of respect

When you respect yourself, that means you accept yourself just the way you are. When you respect other people, that means you accept them just the way they are. When you respect everything in nature – the animals, the oceans, the atmosphere, the earth, that means you accept the entire creation just the way it is. When we arrive in this world, everything was created already. It was not our choice to see what had to be created or not. It was done, and we respect it. Can we do it better? Maybe, but I don’t think so.

What is respect?

Respect is about the complete acceptance of everything that exists just the way it is, not the way we want it to be. This is more or less one meaning of the word respect. Once you accept yourself just the way you are, you no longer have any judgments about yourself. Once you accept everybody else, you no longer have any judgments about anybody else. Then something incredible happens in your world: You find peace. You are not in conflict with yourself, and you are not in conflict with anyone else.

All the conflict that exists in humanity is because there is no respect. Every war is because we didn’t respect the other artists’ way of life. Instead of respecting their rights, we start imposing what we believe on others. There is no peace, there is war.

Boundaries and creating heaven

Respect is like a boundary. What we call our rights and respect go together. We have our rights, just as everything that exists in the universe has its rights. We live in a world that we share with billions of other beings, and respect allows all of us to live in harmony; respect makes it possible for all dreamers to live in peace. In the dream of the masters, we live in peace with everything in creation, and our life is heaven.

Heaven is a kingdom where we are the king or the queen. I have my personal kingdom and it’s heaven, but it wasn’t always heaven. It became heaven the moment I decided to respect my kingdom completely, when I no longer judged myself or anybody else, when I learned to respect everybody else’s kingdom.

Writing our own stories

The Fifth Agreement is also about respect because we respect the other artists when we learn to listen. Instead of helping them to write their story, we allow them to write their own. We have the right to express our story, but it’s no longer about imposing our story on anyone else. I will never be the one who writes your story, just as I will never allow anybody to write mine. I respect your mind, your dream, your creation. I respect whatever you believe. I respect you when I don’t try to tell you how to live your life, how to dress, how to walk, how to talk, how to do whatever you do in your kingdom.

Our real job

As soon as I try to control your kingdom, I’m not respecting you anymore, and we are going to be in a war of control for your kingdom. If I try to control you, in that intent to control you, I lose my freedom. Then my freedom is to let you be whatever you are, whatever you want to be. It’s not my job to change your virtual reality. It’s my job to change myself.

Get in tune with your authentic self, release the fear of what you are without your beliefs, and embrace unconditional love with the Ruiz brothers at the Art of Living Retreat Center. The Agreements of Love takes place from August 23rd-25th, 2019.

Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. is a Nagual, a Toltec Master of Transformation. He is a direct descendant of the Toltecs of the Eagle Knight lineage and is the son of don Miguel Ruiz. By combining the wisdom of his family’s traditions with the knowledge gained from his own personal journey, he now helps others realize their own path to personal freedom.

 

Don Jose Ruiz is a Toltec Master of Transformation and modern day Shaman. He is a direct descendant of the Toltecs of the Eagle Night lineage, and is the son of don Miguel Ruiz, author of New York Times bestseller The Four Agreements. He is the author of The Fifth Agreement, Ripples of Wisdom, and My Good Friend The Rattlesnake. Along with his family, he teaches workshops and offers transformational journeys around the world.

This article is excerpted from The Fifth Agreement: A Practical Guide to Self-Mastery, © 2010 by Miguel Angel Ruiz, M.D., Jose Luis Ruiz, and Janet Mills, and is reposted with permission from the authors.

 

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